There’s phrase I love about this that I’m sure comes from the late Father Martin. This is also the prerequisite of being a sponsor-they need to have gone through the 12 steps themselves. If you aren’t doing that, then you have a person in a support role, but not a sponsor. Just be mindful that despite whatever amenities come with sponsorship, the primary task is to work through the 12 steps together. Sponsors are the most likely choice to work with someone on their fourth and fifth steps, and advise around steps 8 and 9. If you think about this in terms of skills, you are the new person and have a big job ahead of you, and a sponsor is there to share their experience and show you the ropes. There is freedom in this relationship, in that both the sponsor and the sponsee can end the relationship (sometimes people refer to it as being “fired”) at any time. Whatever amenities come with sponsorship, the primary task is to work through the 12 steps together. Some people have a single sponsor throughout their recovery, and others will change at times, finding new sponsors who meet the demands of ongoing recovery. Some sponsors get very involved in the lives of their sponsees-giving them rides, going to court dates with them-and in the beginning might ask to have some form of daily contact or communication. Every sponsor-sponsee relationship is different. At its core, sponsorship is simply a relationship with another member in the program who serves as a mentor, and that person’s sole job is to take you through the 12-step process. Sponsorship is a crucial aspect of the program that many newcomers are hesitant to engage in. In this article I want to tackle ideas about sponsorship, sharing in meetings and the nature of confidentiality. In Part I of this two-part series, I wrote about ways to go about finding a healthy meeting and table, as well as the idea of principles before personalities. This is the second installment in a two-part series.
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Understanding how to find the right sponsor-it may take a few tries-and what personal information to share will go a long way toward success in recovery
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